Insensitivity and Overreacting
i used to be very insensitive with my words as a child, i would say whatever came to my mind and it didn't really didn't bother me that people's expression would change whenever i said something hurting or unpleasent.. actually it's more like i didn't notice.. and i think a few people who are reading this might have been victims of my blantant self too, haha...
it wasn't until years later, when i was in my secondary school days that someone who haven't talked to me for a while actually started talking to me again and told me that i was a very insensitive person hence her decision to stop talking to me because i said something very hurtful.. i was shocked when i heard it and i really wished that she had told me that i was being very hurtful and insensitive with my words so that i would have started changing.
since then i've been trying to watch my words and be more cautious of people's expressions when i say something and it might be karma, but when i was in poly, i actually got a taste of my own medicine.. i had my chicken pox during my secondary school days and everything was pretty much on my face. result was a heavily scarred face and a lot of comments came along with it, even from the people that i hang out with and the fact that i was the jester of the clique didn't really help in holding back the comments...
at first it just all jokes and all but it came to a point that the joke was way overboard that i just snapped at the person that was taking a crack at me and left, leaving everyone in shock..
when i eventually cooled down, i realized that maybe they really didn't mean it and thought that i could take all the jokes that were coming at me.. true enough, everyone started msging me online and on the phone asking me what happened.. so i decided to tell them that it wasn't very nice that they kept making fun of my face.. after that life was pretty much smooth sailing already.. and i've learnt that if you don't tell anyone, they probably think you can take the joke or whatever they're saying...
come present day, i have just witnessed the both sides of me that i have experienced in a single scenario and trust me, it ain't pretty.. it's hard to explain to them that sometimes people find it hard to tell you that you're insensitive and it's also hard for insensitive people to tell whether they've said something wrong or not.. i really hope those 2 people will be reading this and settle it properly and not be like me, only talking to my friend years later, knowing that i was being insensitive and hurt feelings.. but in this case, it would be more of bad blood if it's not settled... :/
it wasn't until years later, when i was in my secondary school days that someone who haven't talked to me for a while actually started talking to me again and told me that i was a very insensitive person hence her decision to stop talking to me because i said something very hurtful.. i was shocked when i heard it and i really wished that she had told me that i was being very hurtful and insensitive with my words so that i would have started changing.
since then i've been trying to watch my words and be more cautious of people's expressions when i say something and it might be karma, but when i was in poly, i actually got a taste of my own medicine.. i had my chicken pox during my secondary school days and everything was pretty much on my face. result was a heavily scarred face and a lot of comments came along with it, even from the people that i hang out with and the fact that i was the jester of the clique didn't really help in holding back the comments...
at first it just all jokes and all but it came to a point that the joke was way overboard that i just snapped at the person that was taking a crack at me and left, leaving everyone in shock..
when i eventually cooled down, i realized that maybe they really didn't mean it and thought that i could take all the jokes that were coming at me.. true enough, everyone started msging me online and on the phone asking me what happened.. so i decided to tell them that it wasn't very nice that they kept making fun of my face.. after that life was pretty much smooth sailing already.. and i've learnt that if you don't tell anyone, they probably think you can take the joke or whatever they're saying...
come present day, i have just witnessed the both sides of me that i have experienced in a single scenario and trust me, it ain't pretty.. it's hard to explain to them that sometimes people find it hard to tell you that you're insensitive and it's also hard for insensitive people to tell whether they've said something wrong or not.. i really hope those 2 people will be reading this and settle it properly and not be like me, only talking to my friend years later, knowing that i was being insensitive and hurt feelings.. but in this case, it would be more of bad blood if it's not settled... :/
posted by egomy at 9/05/2005 07:10:00 PM
2 Comments:
i oso ever have frens who told me that I am kinda tactless in my words, which def shocked me cos I never see myself as such. i feel that it also depends on who you are interacting with. some ppl take others' words more personally while some can take it with a pinch of salt.
hey u know what, me too! LOL. My mom's friend tell me mom I'm not "seng mok" (canto). Stuuupid. So nowadays I prefer to keep my mouth shut unless ard people I know super super well.
So I'm actually not a naturally quiet person. LOL!!!
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